#IWSG: It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to!

The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. It’s an opportunity to talk about doubts and fears you have conquered. To discuss your struggles and triumphs and to offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling.

The awesome co-hosts for the August 3 posting of the IWSG are Tara Tyler, Lisa Buie Collard, Loni Townsend, and Lee Lowery – do take a moment to visit them.

August 3 question – When you set out to write a story, do you try to be more original or do you try to give readers what they want?

Neither. I can’t say I give either of these options much thought. For now, the stories I write are the ones which are in me, the ones which want to come out when I sit down at the keyboard to type, the ones where inspiration has struck, the ones I dream or daydream about.

That said, I’ve yet to make any attempts to query or get published, so… maybe best you don’t do as I do 😉

You’ll not be surprised to hear that I’m an out-and-out pantser and, while I’m learning how to incorporate planning in small ways into my process, the seed of my story has to do some growing first before I apply the rigours of planning to it.

Whether that story is an original one or what readers want will be pure chance, for I don’t think I could write to order. I imagine James Patterson won’t be recruiting me to his cadre of writers any time soon – and I’m as OK with that as he’d be 😀

I stress that I’m in no way suggesting my way is better or more pure of motive than any other – it’s just who I am, right now. The primary reason I write is pleasure – my pleasure. The way I feel at the moment is that, if it never goes any further than that, I’d be entirely content. As my writing party is my pleasure, if the outcome of my choice were to make me cry – so be it 🙂

I’m looking forward to finding out what balance you choose to strike in your writing, and whether it changed the further along the road you were with your writing?

© Debra Carey, 2022


Author: debscarey

Tweets @debsdespatches My personal blog is Debs Despatches, where I ramble on a variety of topics. I write fiction on co-hosted site Fiction Can Be Fun, where my #IWSG reflections can be found; and my Life Coaching business can be found on DebsCarey.com.

18 thoughts on “#IWSG: It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to!”

  1. I agree, I do neither because both would make me over analyze the story. I create stories to go to sleep – to distract myself from my brain throwing bad memories that would have me staring at the ceiling fuming.

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    1. Hi elegancesicy, lovely to have you visit. Sorry to hear that you need stories to distract you in that way ❤ but thank goodness you have them too. I've been far away from fictional writing for too long now and feel the need for some of that gorgeous distraction too.

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  2. I’m like you in being on the fence about getting published. I write because I enjoy it too. I’m a hybrid pantser and outliner. It helps me not to write 20,000 over the expected word count and keep my story moving. And James Patterson won’t be knocking on my door either.

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    1. Ha ha Natalie, we’re both happy in lucking out on the James Patterson gig then! 😀
      Totally with you that outlining helps to overcome many a pantser problem for me.

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  3. Yes! Exactly! Writing to enjoy our own work–I’m right there with you. I used to be a full pantser, but having spent a decade rewriting my current story 6 times… I think I might lean toward planning for future books. 🙂

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    1. Oh yes Loni, that’s what’s convincing me to do some planning – all those WIPs where I totally lost the thread after running out of time! 🙂

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  4. In general, I’m going to do what I want to do with my writing. Sometimes I get good feedback from readers, and I may adjust what I’m doing accordingly. But whenever I’ve tried to chase whatever the market supposedly wants, the stuff I write just isn’t good. I’m not happy with it, my readers don’t seem to be happy with it… it’s not worth doing that, in my experience.

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    1. James, I can see myself chasing after one thing or another if I tried to follow market needs, so know I’m better off not even trying. Part of the reason for working with a business coach is to keep me on track and stop me chasing new shiny things, so I know it’s something I can easily fall into.

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  5. I have to admit a certain amount of envy for people who write entirely for their own pleasure. I’m not sure if it’s a sign of insecurity, or just a difference of personality, but a large part of what I love in writing is connecting with my readers. One of my fondest memories is the first time I got a glowing review from someone I didn’t know on one of my stories. I’d connected with someone I’d never met! I try to avoid writing specifically what I think will get a positive response from readers, as I think that would corrupt the whole experience for me, but I do admit that sometimes I’ll choose between the various projects in my head based on which one I think is more likely to find an audience.

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    1. Oh don’t be envious, I suspect there’s an aspect where many of us who don’t do it, choose not to do so because we know we’d make a hash of it. It sounds like you have a process that works really well for you, so kudos to you!

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    1. Thanks SE, it certainly helps me in the writing process not to worry about the next step. I believe I’d dry up completely if I was to focus too much on the next (scary) bit.

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  6. I’m with you, Deb! I’ve finally reached a point in my life where I write for the pure pleasure of putting my story on paper. That’s what makes me happy. But in no way, is that a blueprint for anyone else.

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    1. Thanks Lee, lovely to hear it’s a highly populated club! You’ve expressed it perfectly – writing makes me happy, and I’d hate for that happiness to be taken away by having to worry about anything else.

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  7. It’s important to know your goals as a writer. If the only audience you aim to please is yourself, then you have the huge advantage of knowing your ideal writer perfectly.
    “Libraries will get you through times of no money better than money will get you through times of no libraries.”
    ―Anne Herbert
    My IWSG blog post discussed my love of originality. I’m looking forward to the bout of books readathon and WEP’s flash fiction later this month.
    Life threw me a curveball with a neighborhood crisis this week, but we got through it.
    Fun fact: August is the only name of a month that’s also a popular name among 👶 baby boys.

    J Lenni Dorner (he/him 👨🏽 or 🧑🏽 they/them) ~ Reference& Speculative Fiction Author, OperationAwesome6 Debut Author Interviewer, and Co-host of the #AtoZchallenge

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    1. Thanks J, it might also be considered too safe, but I’m working on one area of my life at a time with my coach and the writing hasn’t reached the top of the list yet!

      Neighbourhood crisis sounds bad, so glad to hear you got through it.

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